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Monday, December 24, 2012

Sheer genius

I have been way to busy to be maintaining the blog.
That's not good for traffic, but I have a brick and mortar business to run.
I wish I had time to put up some new GOLD every day.

Since I don't, I'll share some simple observations from my good friend Sean Hyson.

Absolute Brilliance right here.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Really? No, you look like a fool.

I have been busier than a 1 armed paper hanger lately and it has not left me with any time for internet gold here on Weakness. What I saw last night made me sit down here today.

 I was watching the news and I saw a puff piece on a guy with the "World's Biggest Arms." 

This is him.
I was sickened. Why? He's not hurting anyone right? I don't know why, I just hate assholes.
They had video of this guy training and it was totally awesome. Kevin and Steve could have watched him
for hours.

 When he flexed his arms, nothing moved. Why? Because they are loaded up with Synthol or whatever the assholes are injecting these days to inflate their muscles.

Synthol is an injectable oil that is really not good for you that does absolutely nothing except occupy space and make things larger. There is no strength benefit from it, just the appearance of size and strength to the uninitiated.

A few years back an asshole named Greg Valentino injected synthol a lot and his arms exploded. Seriously. They exploded.


 What the hell is wrong with these people?

One of the things that bothers me about this kid is that he says he is 100% natural and his arms are real when they clearly are not. Actual muscle flexes. If you want to be a sideshow act and look like a freak that is fine. This is America where you are free to do so, but don't lie.

 He's got saggy Granmamama arms
 Real muscle does not look like this.

I don't really have much to say  other than stupid people should not breed. I hope they never have kids.

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Tougher than you.

I saw this on Fox last night and it brought a tear to my eye.

This is the story of USMC veteran Andre Burgos. Andre is the DEFINITION of what this site is about: STRENGTH.

Watch the video here.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

5k in honor of Rich Angelo

Next weekend there is a 5k run/walk in honor of my friend Rich Angelo.

The following is from the organizer, Marty of FitWerx:

As always, thank you for choosing to participate in Rich’s race…the R11A 5K.  We currently have 186 pre-registered runners/walkers and I know more people will sign up as we get closer.  Again, thank you!

While many of you knew Rich personally, there are a number of you who didn’t.  If you have a minute please click on the link below.  Rich’s friend, Boston Globe Columnist Kevin Cullen, wrote a great article about him that appeared in this past Sunday’s Globe.  Last Friday night would have been their 35th Malden High School Reunion and Rich was very much on everyone’s mind. 

Last but not least, I would like to ask for a little help… Can you please help us reach the 250 participant mark by asking your friends and family to join us? 
Registering is as simple a clicking on the link and following it to the registration.  Please go “ALL IN” and help us make this an incredible event and honor Rich.

Again, thank very much and we’ll see you on 11/11!

Marty Miserandino

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Thursday, October 25, 2012

Video from my meet!

Here is the video of the meet I did last weekend.

It is chronicled on under the 44 and Broken article series.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Bueller, Bueller?

No this isn't a political blog or a religious one. We do try and make sense though.
I am neither Christian not Jew, but I have many friends that are both and this email that was forwarded to me struck a nerve.
It was written by Ben Stein, you know him from "Ferris Bueller's Day Off"

The following was written by Ben  Stein and recited by him on CBS Sunday 
  Morning  Commentary.
   My confession:
    I am a  Jew, and every single one of my ancestors was Jewish.  And it does
  not bother me even a little bit when  people call those beautiful lit up,
  bejeweled trees,  Christmas trees...  I don't feel threatened..  I don't feel
  discriminated against.. That's what  they are, Christmas trees.
   It doesn't bother me  a bit when people say, 'Merry Christmas' to me.  I 
  don't think they are slighting me or getting ready to  put me in a ghetto. 
  In fact, I kind of like it.  It shows that we are all brothers and sisters 
  celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn't bother  me at all that there
  is a manger scene on display at a  key intersection near my beach house in
  Malibu .  If people want a crèche, it's just as fine with me  as is the
  Menorah a few hundred yards away.
   I  don't like getting pushed around for being a Jew, and I  don't think
  Christians like getting pushed around for  being Christians.  I think people
  who believe in  God are sick and tired of getting pushed around, period.  I
  have no idea where the concept came from, that  America is an explicitly
  atheist country.  I can't  find it in the Constitution and I don't like it being 
  shoved down my throat...
   Or maybe I can put it  another way: where did the idea come from that we
  should  worship celebrities and we aren't allowed to worship God  as we
  understand Him?  I guess that's a sign that  I'm getting old, too.  But there are
  a lot of us  who are wondering where these celebrities came from and  where
  the America we knew went to.
   In light of  the many jokes we send to one another for a laugh, this  is a
  little different:  This is not intended to be  a joke; it's not funny, it's
  intended to get you  thinking.
  In light of recent events... terrorists  attack, school shootings, etc..  I
  think it started  when Madeleine Murray O'Hare (she was murdered, her body 
  found a few years ago) complained she didn't want prayer  in our schools,
  and we said OK.  Then someone said  you better not read the Bible in
  school...  The  Bible says thou shalt not kill; thou shalt not steal,  and love your
  neighbor as yourself.  And we said  OK.
   Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn't  spank our children when they
  misbehave, because their  little personalities would be warped and we might
damage  their self-esteem (Dr. Spock's son committed suicide).  We said an
  expert should know what he's talking  about..  And we said okay..
Not this one you dope!

  Now we're asking  ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they 
  don't know right from wrong, and why it doesn't bother  them to kill
  strangers, their classmates, and  themselves.
   Probably, if we think about it long  and hard enough, we can figure it out.
  I think it  has a great deal to do with 'WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.' 
  Funny how simple it is for people to trash God  and then wonder why the
  world's going to hell.  Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but 
  question what the Bible says.  Funny how you can  send 'jokes' through e-mail
  and they spread like  wildfire, but when you start sending messages regarding 
  the Lord, people think twice about sharing.  Funny  how lewd, crude, vulgar
  and obscene articles pass freely  through cyberspace, but public discussion
  of God is  suppressed in the school and workplace.
   Are you  laughing yet?
  Funny how when you forward this  message, you will not send it to many on
  your address  list because you're not sure what they believe, or what  they
  will think of you for sending it.
   Funny how  we can be more worried about what other people think of  us than
  what God thinks of us.
   Pass it on if you  think it has merit.
   If not, then just  discard it... no one will know you did.  But, if  you
  discard this thought process, don't sit back and  complain about what bad
  shape the world is in. 
  My Best Regards,  Honestly  and respectfully,
  Ben Stein 

Wednesday, September 19, 2012


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Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Good read

This is not a political blog, and I DID NOT WRITE THIS. Clearly because I am not an independent voter. If you have ever spoken to me for more than 30 seconds, you know which party I align myself with.
The following was emailed to me by a member TPS who I will not name. Regardless of your party affiliation, give it a read all the way through:


For the record, I’m an independent “unenrolled” voter. And for those of you who wonder why I post political views and hints on facebook, here goes. If you don’t care, have already read most of this (it’s updated) or you’re just going to blindly dispute me, feel free to stop reading now.

A long time ago I called myself a democrat and thought that being a liberal was a good thing. Probably because most of my family is on the liberal democratic side and I just assumed that I was. I didn’t truly know the difference, I just thought of republicans as stuffy rich guys in suits I couldn’t relate to and the liberals were always energizing me with motivational rhetoric that I didn’t understand but sounded good. I never wanted to think of myself as being a “conservative” person and to me “liberal” meant free so it made sense for me to be one. Little did I know that these so-called liberal ideas could actually result in me being less free and in things being less fair for the majority of us.

My mother always taught me not to judge people, that all of us deserve a chance, and that I should be open-minded. She also taught me that nothing comes for free and that if you want something you need to earn it. Her expression was “God helps those who help themselves” and I live by that mantra to this day. I believe that we all start out as equals and that we all deserve equal opportunity. However we are not all equal. We don’t all try at the same level and we don’t’ all have what it takes to be successful in every one of our pursuits. If you are not as nice, strong, hard working, good looking, talented or appealing as the next person, you might not earn the same things as another person. It’s not to say that you should suffer per se, but you won’t get to exploit every opportunity available due to some things you lack that another person has. So you just need to pick yourself up and find something that suits you better. Such is life and it happens to all of us every day. I’ve had major life struggles and have done better than some friends who took advantage of their spoiled situations. On the other hand I’ve had to experience karma and learn the hard way through a lot of things that I didn’t understand or took for granted. That’s how the universe works.
I was born in the projects on welfare. I lived in a diverse neighborhood, went to diverse schools and I had a couple of close friends who were black along the way. We had government cheese in the fridge and shopped with food stamps. I was never handed anything and I’m happy for it. I wouldn’t take any of it back because it made me a better person. If I had a shortcut or someone enabled me to be “equal” to someone else who had more simply because they had it to give, I don’t know what I would have learned or where I would be right now…not to mention it wouldn’t have been fair to someone else who did try and worked harder than me. I’ve been down and out. I’ve been laid off and taken months to look for a job. As much as unemployment was a great safety net for a while, I didn’t feel entitled to stay on it forever. I’m a big believer in ENABLEMENT programs, but I have a big problem with ENTITLEMENT programs because they typically go too far because they either can’t be controlled or people take advantage of them. Obama wants big government with mandatory entitlement programs to foster government dependency and this is a bad idea for the future development of our country. I say enable people but don’t spoil them because it will drag us all down.

This has nothing to do with the article, I just LOVE Skoal!

My mother could have stayed on welfare and probably deserved to. Instead she worked her ass off in every sense of the word to get us out of the projects and off welfare. She didn’t want someone else taking care of her; she was ashamed to be on government assistance. She went on to get an adult education and graduated from Tufts University to make something of herself. She was a good role model in that sense because she drilled it into my head that anything is possible and that nobody is ever going to do it for me. When I went to Northeastern I worked my ass off. I worked in the financial aid office and wrote essays to earn scholarships. My mother and I took out tens of thousands in student loans, all paid back in about four years by the way. I went to six classes and worked three jobs in my senior year when I was supposed to be just cruising along.

I agree that we should fight to provide everyone with equal OPPORTUNITY. However I don’t agree with government programs that attempt to equal the OUTCOMES. There is a difference. It’s a risky endeavor to attempt to pre-determine an outcome simply based on race, gender, financial status etc. It results in reverse discrimination and it undermines the efforts and relative success of others who deserve to realize greatness. Worst of all it lowers the bar for everyone and encourages mediocrity. (If you aren’t going to get more of a reward for being great, there isn’t much incentive to be great) This is not the American way and we just shouldn’t want things to be this way. We should simply want to be better and work harder and help each other to get there when we can. Some people won’t make it, and that’s just a fact of life. If you’re one of the people who do make it, you can be proud of what you achieved and if you like you can even help those less fortunate. But I’m sure you want to have that choice and not have it made for you by the government, right? Well if Obama is re-elected you may not have a choice my friend.

Having a government to protect us is a good thing and I’m all for it. However government’s scope and intervention needs to be limited because the government does not know what is best for us – we do – and they usually screw things up with mismanagement and overages. (Not to mention they’re never wrong and always justify a way to grow the bureaucracy by treating symptoms and not the real problems) As one example, affirmative action was a great idea, but like most government programs it took things too far. Someone should have the equal opportunity to get a job, but they should still have to work just as hard to earn the requisite grades, carry the requisite weight, and perform all of the same tasks better than their peers or they don’t get the job. Plenty of other government programs also go too far. They sound great at face value (that liberal motivation I fell for), yet they incur unintended consequences. The sheer amount of waste and negative unintended consequences extend to unemployment, welfare, the ADA, the EPA, Head Start and beyond. (I think becoming a teacher is a respectful vocation. However if you suck as a teacher and it’s harmful to my kids, I want someone else teaching my kids. Tenure should not override teaching quality for my children.)

If you read John Stossel’s book “No They Can’t” you will start to get an understanding about just how far the government and these unreasonable causes go. You don’t want a level playing field in the way the government is attempting to level it. Not everybody gets the position, not everybody makes the team, and nor should they. Read this book before you go thinking that the government should be involved in forcing everyone into equality. John Stossel is a libertarian, but it’s not a partisan book, everybody is fair game. It just happens to be that most liberals are the ones who push for these so-called “everybody must win” programs. I’m no longer a liberal democrat because I now understand some of the differences in the approaches of socialist/entitlement vs. capitalist/free market. The more we depend on the government or anybody else – good intentions or not – the less free we will be.

On to taxes, which seems to be a category in which the government and plenty of you out there want to somehow “level the playing field?” Be careful with this argument. No, the rich should not pay more of a percentage in taxes. First of all it’s not fair, why would you think the rich need to pay more, just because they’re rich? These people are probably smarter than you and work harder than you; they create thousands of jobs and opportunities and better our economy, so they deserve to be rich. And talk about unintended consequences, do you understand what it means for all of us if we hinder these people from being able to make the advances they make? You tie their hands and it’s a bad thing for all of us because then they can’t be as generous or offer the same level of opportunity to others that they VOLUNTARILY make today. (Read: you already have more opportunity because of them, be thankful and stop trying to demand more without working for it yourself.) Taxing them more doesn’t fix the problem even if it was fair by the way, have you seen those numbers?! If anything the problem is the tax code itself and the isolated abuses of it, not just people who happen to be rich. Many rich people are very generous out of the goodness of their hearts. They create businesses that employ tens to thousands of people because it’s their passion and mission in life to do so. But maybe they can’t be or won’t be as giving of themselves if the government insists on taxing them more, did you ever think of that?

How about you? If the government provides you with special tax deductions, you’re not going to take them out of the goodness of your heart? Please…you get deductions for your kids, your rent or mortgage interest, your charitable donations, etc. Are you volunteering those for your neighbor who got laid off or the guy in the middle of Route 16 with the sign and change cup? When I had investment property, I provided four families with housing and the government gave me incentives to do so. Was I a bad person because I took advantage of those? Why shouldn’t the rich take advantage of the relative deductions available to them for creating housing, businesses that enrich our lives and help us build our livelihoods? Not to mention if they pay the same percentage applied to their higher numbers, they do end up paying more in taxes. Hello, did you even stop to do the math? You’re just jealous and resentful toward these people for something they have and you don’t. The liberal politicians and media take advantage of us “commoners,” encouraging you to feel like you deserve something that someone else earned. But you don’t. And you’re a hypocrite because you’d be doing the same things the rich are doing that are supposedly so horrible. If you have a problem with what people are doing, blame government policy for instating the code that stipulates they can do it. (Don’t hate the player, hate the game…) By the way Obama is rich and he has engaged in crony capitalism…not to mention he hasn’t donated nearly as much as these other “rich bastards” you speak of so how in the world do you stand behind him?

This whole witch hunt for Romney’s taxes is a joke…he not only has provided what was necessary but nobody ever made a fuss about Obama’s taxes because the country was desperate for a solution and he gave great speeches that you fell for. Romney has donated MILLIONS of dollars, not to mention YEARS of his life to worthy causes and all people can talk about is how bad he is because he’s rich and hasn’t shown his taxes. How interesting, considering you haven’t seen Obama’s either. Not to mention you wouldn’t understand them even if you did. Why are you so interested in Romney’s taxes? I personally don’t care about his taxes, he’s living the American dream and I’m happy for him. Especially because he wants more of US to live the American dream. I’m focused on bettering myself and earning more income to pay taxes on! Why don’t you look in the mirror and seek out the real reasons why you feel the way you do and the real way to make the change. Take your head out of the sand and start trying a little harder to understand what is going on instead of watching the biased media coverage and just defending some stance that you feel you should have. You need to realize that this country will only further degrade itself through the unintended consequences of taxing the rich because it’s not fair plus it treats the symptom of a greater problem.

How about immigration? This country is the United States of America. It’s an English speaking country with a flag as its national symbol. Yet it’s starting to become offensive to a select few to not have Spanish or some other language as an option. Do these people even know English? If so, why do our menus need to be written in any other language? (Spanish is my example but there are others) You see litigation and regulation against people flying the American flag at their homes and wearing the flag on shirts in schools, yet it’s offensive and discriminatory if you say anything about a minority doing it. The flag is our national symbol and English is our national language. If you want to be a part of the melting pot, you had better learn to melt because the pot doesn’t melt around you. I have Spanish (Portuguese/Colombian/Brazilian) friends. I had no problem seeing the Brazilians parade up and down Broadway in Brazilian colors waving Brazilian flags, clogging up the streets in Everett when Brazil won the World Cup. That’s cool, it was entertaining and I was happy for them. But do not tell me that my menus have to be in Spanish and that I can’t fly an American flag or that my kids can’t wear one to school. Don’t make me take off my baseball hat in an airport then make special accommodations for the muslim with the turban because it might offend him. Too F-ing bad! I’m an American white guy who was born here and lived here all of my life. I’m fine with the airport screenings, but they have to be done in the same manner for EVERYBODY. Hello, do you remember that muslims killed over 3,000 Americans on our own soil. Get real and “discriminate” where you have to and maybe the wrong groups of people will get the message that you can’t F with America and eventually they will give up trying. You might save a life by caring about everybody, not just the feelings of the select few, ever think of that?

The immigration/discrimination issue is the most backward bullshit I’ve ever heard of and it infuriates me to discuss it because I do not think of the American flag and English as an OPTION. Did you ever stop and think about these people? If they’re willing to do something illegal to get into the country, why would we feel like they’ll be good law-abiding citizens when they live here permanently? Let’s continue to grant amnesty to ILLEGAL immigrants who come into our country ILLEGALLY and who don’t speak OUR language. Great idea! (Yes English is YOUR language if you live in America. The American flag is YOUR flag too.) If you let someone do whatever they want they will continue to do whatever they want. You grant these kinds of people all kinds of rights without having to earn them, you’ll get people committing crimes and F-ing up our country because they don’t understand the laws nor do they care about them because they don’t have to because there is no accountability. It’s somehow offensive to ask for people to be responsible. Now people have a problem showing an ID to vote?! You’re kidding me right? There is no valid argument against requiring people to show an ID to vote and I won’t even justify the argument by saying more about it. The select few who are offended need to be thwarted from creating these idiotic regulations, it needs to end. Stop being politically correct because it’s getting us nowhere. Stop letting people take advantage of America or there won’t be one. Obama wants us all to be equal whether we work for it or not, and that includes immigrants who don’t even deserve to be in this country. That’s dishonorable to people born here and who came here legally. Stand for America dammit!
National defense is one area in which I support more and/or stronger government. Some believe that the scope or “mission” of our military should be reduced. I can’t speak to that because I’m not sure. Regardless of how we achieve it, when it comes to national defense I believe that we should be a dominant world force and never have to worry about compromise. We are moving away from military superiority and that deeply concerns me. I’m not comfortable with Obama’s push to reduce our national defense including a reduction in nuclear warheads. As much as I don’t want to think about a nuclear war because it’s horrifying, we need to stay dominant so that it never becomes an option for another nation to threaten America in any regard. Although I’m sure that we have plenty of other weapons and options (other than nuclear) available to us, the blatant reduction in national defense scares me. World leadership is another area in which we do not want a level playing field. Let’s take the path of better safe than sorry here…don’t let Obama reduce the budget for national defense.

So all of this concern is why I post what I do. I may not be the most diplomatic, politically correct guy out there…but I genuinely care. I have democratic views as well as republican views, but I’m more on the right side of things now. Some of the nicest most generous people I’ve ever met are Republicans, and none of them are rich. I thought I was a democrat almost all the way up to the 2008 election. I thought McCain was a wet blanket, the way I used to think of republicans as stuffy suits. I wouldn’t have chosen him to be our president if given better choices. However I thought that Obama’s stance on immigration, national defense and government entitlement/dependency would be detrimental to our country. I didn’t fall for the speeches, I trusted my gut. And even though it felt weird going into the box with so many people around me probably voting for Obama, I bit the bullet and voted for McCain. Now I’m faced with a similar dilemma. I see Obama closing down Gitmo and accommodating heinous criminals, blocking the Keystone Pipeline and domestic energy development, and making other detrimental decisions that I couldn’t possibly enumerate. Romney may not be the end-all-be-all or our favorite guy in the world, but he is our way out of the mess we’re in. At least he is a true American patriot and you know that he will rebuild America the way some of our other patriotic presidents did.

Maybe Obama didn’t create this mess, but he is perpetuating it and taking us down a dangerous path as a country. Obama is not a patriot. He didn’t salute our flag and he disrespects other world leaders who are our allies and shuns members of our military. Now he doesn’t want our military to vote because he knows how poorly he has performed. He doesn’t deserve to be in office. Even if you don’t suspect Obama to the extent that I do, he doesn’t understand economics. Romney at least understands the economy and how to turn around a business. You don’t need to grow a business for it to be more profitable, you can sometimes do less with more.

Stop being brainwashed. Capitalism and the free market is a good thing; it’s what America was founded on. If you educate yourself on all of the government intervention that has gone wrong and how free markets keep things fair, you won’t be able to help but feel differently about it. You enjoy capitalism and free markets every day of your life; it’s just the way in which you think about it that is bad. Probably much like I used to think about conservatives and republicans. The truth is a lot of politicians are crony capitalists – republicans and democrats alike even our president. But if that will always be the case and I can’t change the individual deals that are made, I need to pick the best overall candidate. I’m voting for the American; for the guy who can get us back to productivity, make us all more money, and protect us by keeping America strong and pure the way we know and love it.

Whether it’s blatant and out in the open or quietly understood, it can be awkward to have family and friends pressuring you to continue voting Democrat. But follow your instincts and what you hopefully have read and understood about what being a Republican really means and stand up for yourself and what you believe in. It’s okay to change your mind. Regardless of right or left, republican or democrat, I’ll be voting for the anti-Obama to save this country. You can either put your head in the sand and listen to the liberal-biased mainstream media or you can start paying attention to what is happening to your world and actually do something about it. It’s your choice; the fate of all of us rests in your hands.

P.S. I’m a small business owner and I built it!

Thursday, August 23, 2012

TPS in the Globe

TPS was featured on the cover and in a 6 page article n today's Bosotn Globe.
Check it out here.

Congratulations to Steve Dilello for doing an AWESOME job, every day!

Monday, August 20, 2012


The name of this blog is Weakness is a crime for many reasons. It is not just about weakness of the body, but also weakness of the spirit, of the mind and of will. It is about teaching you to be stronger in all of these areas and about how to make your life better. I am writing now in great sadness because one of the strongest people that I have ever met has just left this world, Mr. Richard Angelo.
Rich, Cheryl and my son the day he was born

Many of you know Rich, he was the owner of Rich Angelo’s Karate Academy on Ferry Street in Everett, and then on lower Broadway for over 20 years. Rich was instrumental in teaching many of the area’s children and adults on how to be stronger in body, mind and spirit through martial arts and strength training. Rich was also a mentor, father figure, like a brother and a best friend to me for most of my life.
Rich WINNING the 2002 Mass State Strongman Contest

I learned many lessons from Rich in the time that we had together. Rich was my first boxing/kickboxing coach, and the best one that I ever had. He taught me how to fight and not let the punches and kicks an opponent threw at me affect my will to win (not only in the gym but in life). He taught me the value of achieving what you want in life through dedication and hard work. He, along with my grandfather and Uncles, instilled the value of integrity. He taught me that it is not what you say to people, but how you say it. He taught me how to be a great coach. He taught me to never stop learning. He taught me the value of family, even more than my own family did. I could go on for days about the lessons I learned from this great man.

I got the news of Rich’s passing from his beloved wife Cheryl this past Saturday just hours after he passed while competing in an Ironman (like a triathlon) as I was attending a bench press seminar. A friend was sent down to the gym to have me get a hold of Cheryl. I was applying one of Rich’s lessons; never stop learning, when I got the news.

I spoke with Rich just a few days before he left to compete and we talked about many things, including how he was in the best shape of his life and how I was going to return to weight lifting competition in October. I wished him the best and we made plans to have lunch when he got back. After I got the news of his passing a lot of things went through my mind, and one thing stood out more than anything, besides horrendous grief; I owed Rich a debt that could never be repaid and that he was one of the most important people in my life, and he was now gone.

A true sign of strength is letting people in your life know how valuable they are to you while they are still here. I was and still am very sad at Rich’s passing, but I feel good about one thing. I let him know how important he was to me while he was still alive. Of course he knew it, but the fact that I told him left me with no regrets. A while ago, it was the anniversary of my grandfather’s death, and my son asked me why I was so sad that day. I explained to him that it was a special day and the reason why I was sad is that I miss him every day and that I never told him exactly what he meant to me while he was alive. A few days after this, Rich and I were talking and I took the time to tell him exactly what he meant to me and how grateful that I was to him for all that he did for me in my life. I told him that when my grandfather passed I never told him these things and I didn’t want to wait until it was too late to let him know the same things.

I’d like to leave you all with a few things that you can take away from my experience with Rich:

-never stop learning

-treat people well

-act with integrity

-keep your body and your spirit strong

-never, ever quit, no matter what at whatever you are doing

-be better today than you were yesterday.

If you try and do even one of these things, you will be stronger for it. Tell someone important to you TODAY what they mean to you. You will be stronger for it.

Rest in peace Rich. We will all miss you.